First off, planning for the end of your life does NOT mean that you are currently at that point. Everyone (and by everyone we mean EVERYONE) should make a plan for the end of their life. This means that EVERYONE should have an advanced directive/living will. It is also important to make sure that they are updated every year or two.
This is a relatively simple document that states your wishes should something happen that renders you unable to verbalize them yourself. This could be an accident, a stroke, or some type of memory issue (which could be a temporary issue related to medication or illness) It is your opportunity to make your voice heard when it really matters. You do NOT need an attorney to draw up this document for you. In fact, many attorneys would rather not be responsible for writing the medical terminology. The Eldest Daughter has helped hundreds of families complete their advanced directives by facilitating conversations between their loved ones.
However, it is not enough to just HAVE an advanced directive. You need to make sure that your family understands what your wishes are. By having these important conversations while you are relatively healthy and of sound mind, you will all gain reassurance that everyone at least understands your wishes.
The Eldest Daughter is experienced in Palliative Care and Hospice Care as well and can help you identify when these options might best meet your needs.
Families want to do the right thing, but often aren’t sure what the right thing is. The Eldest Daughter can help you figure out what that “right thing” is.
Adult children often live at a distance or are overwhelmed due to the other responsibilities such as careers or families/children. The Eldest Daughter can help share the burden by tag teaming with you, or to be the eyes and ears first hand and determine when an emergency long distance trip is warranted. A geriatric care manager like the Eldest Daughter can be especially helpful for long distance caregivers and caregivers who have exhausted all of their available work leave, but also helpful for anyone needing some extra guidance and help caring for their loved ones.
Family members are in conflict or there is dysfunction (where parents should live, safety vs autonomy, end of life decisions, spending, resistence by parent, suspected abuse or undue influence). The Eldest Daughter can help sort through the conflict with you to determine common goals and aid in effective communication. Together we comprise the “client committee”; the professional, the family and the client.