The eldest daughter in the family is typically the family member informally assigned to manage the care of her aging parents. That may have been easier to manage in a time when many women were stay at home moms. That is not the case today. Many adult children (both male and female) find themselves in the “sandwich generation”, juggling not only their own families and a career, but caring for their aging loved ones as well. While most of us like to think of ourselves as Superwoman, we are not, and couldn’t possibly be all that to everyone.
Even the family members with the best intentions, and even those that actually have an unlimited amount of time to help provide care to their aging loved ones, don’t necessarily know of all of the available resources and programs to provide seniors with the ability to age in place. When time and energy are limited commodities, don’t try and reinvent the wheel. Engage the support and expertise of someone who is well versed in elder care needs and the available programs.
The Eldest Daughter can step in to guide you through every step of the process to give you more confidence in your role as caregiver, or simply lift the burden you are carrying by streamlining the process for you. You decide how much or how little involvement we provide.
Families want to do the right thing, but often aren’t sure what the right thing is. The Eldest Daughter can help you figure out what that “right thing” is.
Adult children often live at a distance or are overwhelmed due to the other responsibilities such as careers or families/children. The Eldest Daughter can help share the burden by tag teaming with you, or to be the eyes and ears first hand and determine when an emergency long distance trip is warranted. A geriatric care manager like the Eldest Daughter can be especially helpful for long distance caregivers and caregivers who have exhausted all of their available work leave, but also helpful for anyone needing some extra guidance and help caring for their loved ones.
Family members are in conflict or there is dysfunction (where parents should live, safety vs autonomy, end of life decisions, spending, resistence by parent, suspected abuse or undue influence). The Eldest Daughter can help sort through the conflict with you to determine common goals and aid in effective communication. Together we comprise the “client committee”; the professional, the family and the client.
Caregiver Support Group meets every First Wednesday evening of the month
Group is open to anyone in the community who is struggling with/worrying about caring for aging loved ones.
Those interested should contact Lisa for more information.